self-compassion · 3 min
Self-compassion for the inner critic: 3 minutes, at midday
Slow, spoken guidance for the inner critic. A self-compassion session you can do at midday.
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About this practice
Slow, spoken guidance for the inner critic. A self-compassion session you can do at midday. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: the inner critic
The inner critic often formed as a protective strategy, keeping you small to keep you safe. It is loudest where you feel most exposed.
It tends to show up as:
- A judge commenting on everything
- Anticipating criticism before it comes
- Difficulty accepting praise
You can notice the voice without obeying it. Distance between the voice and the response is the whole gain.
Doing this at lunch
- Do it before eating rather than after, so you are not working against digestion
- Leaving the desk matters more than the session length
- Take the headphones off afterwards so the break registers
A break that happens at the same desk is only half a break.
How self-compassion works
Self-compassion practice changes the tone of the inner voice rather than the content of the thoughts. It uses the same warmth and steadiness you would offer a friend, applied without requiring you to have earned it.
- Use the words you would actually say to someone you love
- Ask what you need, not what you deserve
- A hand on the chest or belly gives warmth and pressure a place to land
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00Let your next exhale be a sigh, if a sigh is what's waiting there.
- 0:14Say it once, plainly: this is hard, and I am allowed to find it hard.
- 0:28Now let your attention move from the room into your body, slowly, the way you'd move through a doorway you know well.
- 0:46Feel your breath move down your back, all the way to your lower ribs.
- 1:00Let each breath out be a small letting go of the muscles around your ribs.
- 1:14Feel the back of your neck. That's a place that holds a lot.
- 1:27the running commentary on your flaws may quiet down, or it may not. Either is fine. We are practising staying, not performing calm.
- 1:45Nothing about the voice that grades everything has to be explained or justified in this room.
- 2:00Notice the small pause before your body decides to breathe in again.
- 2:13You do not have to like the judge in your head to breathe through it. Liking was never the requirement.
- 2:30If your mind is quiet, don't grab at it. Quiet comes and goes too.
- 2:44The question is not what you deserve. It is what you need, right now, in this moment.
- 2:59Let the quiet end on its own rather than cutting it off.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
The inner critic often formed as a protective strategy, keeping you small to keep you safe. It is loudest where you feel most exposed. You can notice the voice without obeying it. Distance between the voice and the response is the whole gain.
Where and when should I do this one?
Do it before eating rather than after, so you are not working against digestion. A break that happens at the same desk is only half a break.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Self-compassion practice changes the tone of the inner voice rather than the content of the thoughts. It uses the same warmth and steadiness you would offer a friend, applied without requiring you to have earned it.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try Breathing meditation for a racing mind (7 min), in the afternoon slump, Being present: 3-minute softening meditation, before an exam or Exhaustion: 20-minute noting meditation, on the way out of work.