self-compassion · 3 min
Meditation for the inner critic: 3-minute letting go session, after a long day
Nothing to learn and nothing to fix: 3 minutes of letting go for the inner critic, after a long day.
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About this practice
Nothing to learn and nothing to fix: 3 minutes of letting go for the inner critic, after a long day. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: the inner critic
The inner critic often formed as a protective strategy, keeping you small to keep you safe. It is loudest where you feel most exposed.
It tends to show up as:
- A judge commenting on everything
- Anticipating criticism before it comes
- Difficulty accepting praise
You can notice the voice without obeying it. Distance between the voice and the response is the whole gain.
Doing this after a long day
- Something physical first — shoes off, hands washed, water drunk
- Do not review the day during it
- Keep it short rather than thorough
Replaying the day in the practice just carries the day further into the evening.
How letting go works
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
- Pick one thing you are gripping and loosen a single finger
- Release the effort with the exhale, not the issue
- Set down temporarily; you can pick it up again after
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00You don't have to empty your mind. Nobody has ever managed that, including the people who wrote the instructions.
- 0:16Setting something down is not the same as giving up. You can pick it up again after.
- 0:31Let your breathing find its own pace. We're only going to watch it.
- 0:44Let the exhale fall out rather than pushing it.
- 0:55Notice the small gap after each exhale. Rest there for half a second.
- 1:08Now feel both feet at once. That's a lot of contact with the world.
- 1:22Notice how the judge in your head changes shape when you stop resisting it. Usually it gets smaller, not bigger.
- 1:39There is no correct amount of the running commentary on your flaws to be feeling right now. Whatever is here is the honest amount.
- 1:58Let your breathing find the rhythm it uses when you're almost asleep.
- 2:11You are allowed to be unimpressed by the voice that grades everything. Indifference is a legitimate response.
- 2:26If you've lost track of where we were, you haven't lost anything important.
- 2:39You have been carrying this competently for a while. A few minutes off will not undo that.
- 2:54Let the quiet end on its own rather than cutting it off.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
The inner critic often formed as a protective strategy, keeping you small to keep you safe. It is loudest where you feel most exposed. You can notice the voice without obeying it. Distance between the voice and the response is the whole gain.
Where and when should I do this one?
Something physical first — shoes off, hands washed, water drunk. Replaying the day in the practice just carries the day further into the evening.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try Settling in to work, 3-minute noting meditation for anger, before you talk or 10-minute guided breathing practice for loneliness — at the airport.