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Deep work: 3-minute self-compassion meditation, before public speaking
When deep work shows up before public speaking, this 3-minute self-compassion session gives you somewhere to put it down.
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About this practice
When deep work shows up before public speaking, this 3-minute self-compassion session gives you somewhere to put it down. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: deep work
Deep work requires a low distraction floor. Modern work rarely provides one, so the transition into it has to be manufactured.
It tends to show up as:
- Getting interrupted every few minutes
- Starting five things and finishing none
- Feeling busy but not productive
A short deliberate transition tells the body the next stretch is different. Without one, the previous meeting follows you in.
Doing this before public speaking
- Do it somewhere private, or in the washroom if needed
- Slow the exhale deliberately and check your speaking pace after
- Warm the voice by reading a line aloud, not by staying silent
Rushing is the tell of nerves. A slower breath now is what sets a slower pace in the room.
How self-compassion works
Self-compassion practice changes the tone of the inner voice rather than the content of the thoughts. It uses the same warmth and steadiness you would offer a friend, applied without requiring you to have earned it.
- Use the words you would actually say to someone you love
- Ask what you need, not what you deserve
- A hand on the chest or belly gives warmth and pressure a place to land
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00Loosen your grip on whatever you're holding, or imagine loosening it.
- 0:12Notice the tone you are using on yourself. If it would wound a friend, it is not the truth.
- 0:28Let your sense of the room shrink down to just your body and the surface you're on.
- 0:43Let the exhale fall out rather than pushing it.
- 0:54Notice your breathing getting quieter on its own, without you deciding anything.
- 1:07Notice your ears, which mostly just receive things.
- 1:18Notice how the open tabs of your attention changes shape when you stop resisting it. Usually it gets smaller, not bigger.
- 1:35Say to yourself: this is uncomfortable, and I can stay with it for one more breath. Then take that breath.
- 1:52Let your breathing be boring. Boring is good here.
- 2:03There is a part of you that has handled hard moments before. That part is here now, even if it is quiet.
- 2:21If you're irritated, that's allowed. Irritation is just weather.
- 2:32The question is not what you deserve. It is what you need, right now, in this moment.
- 2:47Give your hands a stretch before you go back to using them.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
Deep work requires a low distraction floor. Modern work rarely provides one, so the transition into it has to be manufactured. A short deliberate transition tells the body the next stretch is different. Without one, the previous meeting follows you in.
Where and when should I do this one?
Do it somewhere private, or in the washroom if needed. Rushing is the tell of nerves. A slower breath now is what sets a slower pace in the room.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Self-compassion practice changes the tone of the inner voice rather than the content of the thoughts. It uses the same warmth and steadiness you would offer a friend, applied without requiring you to have earned it.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try 5-minute guided breathing practice for brain fog — after a bad day, 10-minute guided breathing practice for waking at 3am — on a Saturday morning or Self-compassion for the inner critic: 10 minutes, late at night.