self-compassion · 3 min
Letting go meditation for perfectionism (3 min), on a train journey
Nothing to learn and nothing to fix: 3 minutes of letting go for perfectionism, on a train journey.
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About this practice
Nothing to learn and nothing to fix: 3 minutes of letting go for perfectionism, on a train journey. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: perfectionism
Perfectionism treats a mistake as evidence rather than an incident. The bar rises precisely where self-worth is attached, which is why it never becomes achievable.
It tends to show up as:
- Endless polishing before sharing
- Fear of a wrong step
- Delaying work until conditions are ideal
A practice with no grade attached is a useful counterweight. There is no wrong way to do the next few minutes.
Doing this on a train
- Pick a window seat if you can and let the view do part of the work
- Set an alarm for your stop
- Keep the bag on your lap rather than unfastening to find it later
The motion can make reading or screens uncomfortable, which is another reason audio works better here.
How letting go works
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
- Pick one thing you are gripping and loosen a single finger
- Release the effort with the exhale, not the issue
- Set down temporarily; you can pick it up again after
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00If your legs are crossed, uncross them. Small changes count.
- 0:12You have been carrying this competently for a while. A few minutes off will not undo that.
- 0:27Let your breathing find its own pace. We're only going to watch it.
- 0:40Let the out-breath be a little longer than the in-breath, without forcing it.
- 0:53Let the breath be shallow if shallow is what your body wants.
- 1:06Let the whole of your left foot be heavy.
- 1:17This is not the last time the bar that is always too high will visit. That is not bad news. It means you will get more practice.
- 1:37You do not have to like the fear of a wrong step to breathe through it. Liking was never the requirement.
- 1:54Breathe in for four, out for six, if you'd like something to count.
- 2:07Imagine softening the edges of the demand that everything be exactly right. Not erasing it, just letting the sharp parts go a degree softer.
- 2:26If you're irritated, that's allowed. Irritation is just weather.
- 2:37With each exhale, let a little of the effort go. Not the problem — just the effort.
- 2:52Let the pace of the last few minutes set the pace of the next few.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
Perfectionism treats a mistake as evidence rather than an incident. The bar rises precisely where self-worth is attached, which is why it never becomes achievable. A practice with no grade attached is a useful counterweight. There is no wrong way to do the next few minutes.
Where and when should I do this one?
Pick a window seat if you can and let the view do part of the work. The motion can make reading or screens uncomfortable, which is another reason audio works better here.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.