Guide · after-work · 3 min read
The five minutes after a difficult meeting — the short version, if you are sceptical about all of this
Back-to-back meetings leave no room to come down. Five deliberate minutes changes the next hour.
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This is not complicated. It is inconvenient, which is why most people skip it.
Scepticism is welcome. You do not have to believe anything for this to work.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Move: stairs, a corridor, a walk to get water. The physical reset is faster than the mental one.
Write down what actually happened, not what you felt about it. The two get mixed up within about ten minutes.
If something was said that stung, note it and decide to deal with it tomorrow. Most things look smaller after a night.
What to do when it does not work
If you have to send a reply, draft it and wait an hour. Angry emails written in five minutes take weeks to undo.
Do not replay it in your head with better answers. That rehearsal is satisfying and completely useless.
Do not go straight into the next thing. Even sixty seconds of standing up changes how you carry the last meeting into the next one.
Questions people ask
Should I send a follow-up straight away?
A factual one, yes. An emotional one, no. Write it, then leave it for an hour.
What if I need to speak up in the meeting?
Prepare one sentence in advance. Most people who cannot speak up are missing an opening line, not courage.
Written for people who want the practical version. No accounts, no tracking, no newsletter wall.
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