Guide · after-work · 3 min read
The five minutes after a difficult meeting — a plain-language guide, after a long day
Back-to-back meetings leave no room to come down. Five deliberate minutes changes the next hour.
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Six things, in the order that makes the most difference. The first two do most of the work.
Use it at the end of a long day, not at the start of one.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Do not replay it in your head with better answers. That rehearsal is satisfying and completely useless.
Do not go straight into the next thing. Even sixty seconds of standing up changes how you carry the last meeting into the next one.
Write down what actually happened, not what you felt about it. The two get mixed up within about ten minutes.
What to do when it does not work
If you have to send a reply, draft it and wait an hour. Angry emails written in five minutes take weeks to undo.
If something was said that stung, note it and decide to deal with it tomorrow. Most things look smaller after a night.
Move: stairs, a corridor, a walk to get water. The physical reset is faster than the mental one.
Questions people ask
What if I need to speak up in the meeting?
Prepare one sentence in advance. Most people who cannot speak up are missing an opening line, not courage.
Should I send a follow-up straight away?
A factual one, yes. An emotional one, no. Write it, then leave it for an hour.
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