Guide · after-work · 3 min read
The five minutes after a difficult meeting — a calm, practical approach, when you are somewhere unfamiliar
Back-to-back meetings leave no room to come down. Five deliberate minutes changes the next hour.
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Here is what tends to work, in the order that helps most.
It travels well. Hotels, spare rooms, other people’s sofas.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Do not replay it in your head with better answers. That rehearsal is satisfying and completely useless.
Move: stairs, a corridor, a walk to get water. The physical reset is faster than the mental one.
If something was said that stung, note it and decide to deal with it tomorrow. Most things look smaller after a night.
What to do when it does not work
Do not go straight into the next thing. Even sixty seconds of standing up changes how you carry the last meeting into the next one.
Write down what actually happened, not what you felt about it. The two get mixed up within about ten minutes.
If you have to send a reply, draft it and wait an hour. Angry emails written in five minutes take weeks to undo.
Questions people ask
Should I send a follow-up straight away?
A factual one, yes. An emotional one, no. Write it, then leave it for an hour.
Written for people who want the practical version. No accounts, no tracking, no newsletter wall.
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