Guide · after-work · 3 min read
Using the commute as a boundary between work and home, when you need to stop thinking about work
The commute is the only transition most people get. Used deliberately, it stops the workday following you into the kitchen.
Start here
Six things, in the order that makes the most difference. The first two do most of the work.
Work thoughts are allowed to be there. They just do not get to drive.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
If the day was bad, give yourself the length of the journey to be annoyed about it. Then stop. Not because it does not matter, but because carrying it further costs you the evening.
Do not use the whole journey for email. If you must, do it in the first ten minutes and then stop.
If you drive, do not spend the journey rehearsing tomorrow. Play something, or listen to nothing at all.
What to do when it does not work
Decide the moment work ends. It can be leaving the building, getting on the train, or a specific stop. Without a marker, work follows you home.
When you get in, change your clothes. It sounds trivial and it works — the body uses it as a signal.
Have something to listen to that is not work-related. A podcast about anything else is a clean boundary.
Questions people ask
I have to answer messages in the evening.
Then set one time for it. Checking continuously is more draining than answering everything twice.
What if I work from home?
Then invent a commute: a ten-minute walk around the block at the end of the day. The point is the transition, not the travel.
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If this is not the angle you need, try How to get through the first hour without your phone — what works and what does not, when you are short on time, A wind-down that starts before you are tired — the long answer, briefly, if you are fitting this around other people or How to stop scrolling in bed, in the order that helps, after a difficult conversation.