self-compassion · 3 min
Self-criticism: 3-minute letting go meditation, on the train
For the times on the train when self-criticism takes up more room than you would like — 3 minutes, letting go.
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About this practice
For the times on the train when self-criticism takes up more room than you would like — 3 minutes, letting go. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: self-criticism
Self-criticism is a habit of speech, not an accurate report. The same inner voice repeats whether or not the evidence supports it.
It tends to show up as:
- A running commentary on your mistakes
- Harsh words you would never say aloud to someone else
- Reviewing old failures in detail
The practice is not to argue with the voice, but to speak to yourself in a tone that does not require an argument.
Doing this on your commute
- Headphones on, eyes open or closed depending on your comfort
- Keep one part of your attention on your stop
- Do it standing if sitting is not possible — nobody is watching
Commuting time is already dead time. Nothing is being given up.
How letting go works
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
- Pick one thing you are gripping and loosen a single finger
- Release the effort with the exhale, not the issue
- Set down temporarily; you can pick it up again after
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00Let your tongue rest down, away from the roof of your mouth.
- 0:13Pick one thing you are gripping — a plan, a worry, a grudge — and loosen a single finger.
- 0:29If some part of you is resisting this, that resistance is worth noticing too.
- 0:43Notice the difference between the breath at the front of your nose and the breath in your chest.
- 0:59Let the out-breath be a little longer than the in-breath, without forcing it.
- 1:12Feel your upper arms hanging. They're heavier than you remember.
- 1:24Feel the weight of the criticism you would never aim at a friend somewhere specific, then let the floor take a share of it.
- 1:43Imagine the record of your mistakes as a room you can walk out of for a minute. The room will still be there.
- 2:01Feel the last part of the exhale, where it turns into nothing.
- 2:14Notice the space around the harsh voice inside. It is there, even if it is small. Put your attention in that space.
- 2:32Notice any part of you that wants this to be over.
- 2:44Ask yourself what you could stop holding for the next sixty seconds. That one is a good start.
- 3:00Give your hands a stretch before you go back to using them.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
Self-criticism is a habit of speech, not an accurate report. The same inner voice repeats whether or not the evidence supports it. The practice is not to argue with the voice, but to speak to yourself in a tone that does not require an argument.
Where and when should I do this one?
Headphones on, eyes open or closed depending on your comfort. Commuting time is already dead time. Nothing is being given up.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try Meditation for guilt: 10-minute grounding session, on a day off, Grounding meditation for appreciation (15 min), before bedtime or Breathing for a mindful pause: 10 minutes, when the news hits hard.