anxiety · 3 min

Letting go meditation for public speaking fear (3 min), in the hour before sleep

3 minutes to meet public speaking fear with less of a fight. A letting go practice, in the hour before sleep.

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About this practice

3 minutes to meet public speaking fear with less of a fight. A letting go practice, in the hour before sleep. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.

What this works on: public speaking fear

Speaking to a group triggers the same response as physical threat: shallow breathing, a dry mouth, and a voice that rises and speeds up.

It tends to show up as:

  • Voice wobbling on the first sentence
  • Speaking too fast to get it over with
  • Shallow breathing high in the chest

Lengthening the exhale slows speech and steadies the voice. Physically, this is a breath practice before it is a confidence practice.

Doing this before bed

  • Do it in bed or somewhere you can move straight to bed after
  • Lower the light, and do not check anything afterwards
  • If you fall asleep before the end, it worked

Falling asleep mid-session is a success, not a failure to complete it.

How letting go works

Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.

  • Pick one thing you are gripping and loosen a single finger
  • Release the effort with the exhale, not the issue
  • Set down temporarily; you can pick it up again after

What happens, minute by minute

  1. 0:00Then find the nearest sound. It's probably your own breathing.
  2. 0:12We are not solving anything in the next few minutes. We are setting it down, temporarily.
  3. 0:27Imagine your thoughts as traffic on a road you're standing beside. You don't have to flag any of it down.
  4. 0:44If you're holding your breath at the top, stop. There's no need to hold anything.
  5. 0:58Let the breath get soft, the way it goes when someone is reading beside you.
  6. 1:12Notice your jaw again. Let your back teeth part slightly.
  7. 1:24You do not have to like the room full of faces to breathe through it. Liking was never the requirement.
  8. 1:41Whatever the urge to rush off the stage is doing right now, your breathing can keep going underneath it.
  9. 1:57Feel the last part of the exhale, where it turns into nothing.
  10. 2:10You do not have to win against the wobble in your voice. You only have to breathe until the next moment arrives.
  11. 2:28If your body wants to move, let it move, then come back.
  12. 2:41Ask yourself what you could stop holding for the next sixty seconds. That one is a good start.
  13. 2:57If you drifted off, that was rest, and rest counts.

Questions people ask

What does this session help with?

Speaking to a group triggers the same response as physical threat: shallow breathing, a dry mouth, and a voice that rises and speeds up. Lengthening the exhale slows speech and steadies the voice. Physically, this is a breath practice before it is a confidence practice.

Where and when should I do this one?

Do it in bed or somewhere you can move straight to bed after. Falling asleep mid-session is a success, not a failure to complete it.

What actually happens during the 3 minutes?

Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.

Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.