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What to do when you wake at 3am
Finding yourself wide awake in the early hours of the morning can be unsettling. It's the way you react to it that can turn a brief interruption into a long night of tossing and turning.
Start here
Every point here is written so that a bad week is still enough to manage it.
A few minutes is the whole requirement.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Keep the lights off and stay in bed for the first twenty minutes. Most wakings settle on their own if you do not get involved.
Do not turn on overhead lights or look at a screen. A small lamp and paper is the whole setup.
Do not check the time. Knowing it is 3:12 does not help, and it starts the arithmetic of how many hours are left.
What to do when it does not work
Keep your wake-up time the same the next morning, however bad the night was. Sleeping in is what moves the problem to the following night.
If twenty minutes pass and you are still wide awake, get up. Sit somewhere dim with a book. Lying awake and trying is what teaches your brain that bed is a place for thinking.
When you go back to bed, do not check whether you feel sleepy. The checking is the problem. Go back because it is boring, not because you have passed a test.
Questions people ask
Should I take melatonin?
That is a conversation for a pharmacist or doctor rather than a website. Melatonin shifts timing more reliably than it fixes middle-of-the-night waking.
Is waking at 3am a medical problem?
Waking briefly is normal at every age. If it happens most nights for more than a month, or comes with loud snoring or gasping, mention it to a doctor.
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