Guide · after-work · 3 min read

The five minutes after a difficult meeting — where to start, when you have already had a long week

Back-to-back meetings leave no room to come down. Five deliberate minutes changes the next hour.

Start here

A short explanation first, because knowing why makes the doing easier.

Long weeks are cumulative. This is a small subtraction.

If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.

What helps

Do not replay it in your head with better answers. That rehearsal is satisfying and completely useless.

If you have to send a reply, draft it and wait an hour. Angry emails written in five minutes take weeks to undo.

Move: stairs, a corridor, a walk to get water. The physical reset is faster than the mental one.

What to do when it does not work

Do not go straight into the next thing. Even sixty seconds of standing up changes how you carry the last meeting into the next one.

Write down what actually happened, not what you felt about it. The two get mixed up within about ten minutes.

If something was said that stung, note it and decide to deal with it tomorrow. Most things look smaller after a night.

Questions people ask

Should I send a follow-up straight away?

A factual one, yes. An emotional one, no. Write it, then leave it for an hour.

What if I need to speak up in the meeting?

Prepare one sentence in advance. Most people who cannot speak up are missing an opening line, not courage.

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