Guide · after-work · 3 min read
Using the commute as a boundary between work and home — what actually works, after a long day
The commute is the only transition most people get. Used deliberately, it stops the workday following you into the kitchen.
Start here
Six things, in the order that makes the most difference. The first two do most of the work.
Use it at the end of a long day, not at the start of one.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
If you drive, do not spend the journey rehearsing tomorrow. Play something, or listen to nothing at all.
When you get in, change your clothes. It sounds trivial and it works — the body uses it as a signal.
Decide the moment work ends. It can be leaving the building, getting on the train, or a specific stop. Without a marker, work follows you home.
What to do when it does not work
If the day was bad, give yourself the length of the journey to be annoyed about it. Then stop. Not because it does not matter, but because carrying it further costs you the evening.
Do not use the whole journey for email. If you must, do it in the first ten minutes and then stop.
Have something to listen to that is not work-related. A podcast about anything else is a clean boundary.
Questions people ask
What if I work from home?
Then invent a commute: a ten-minute walk around the block at the end of the day. The point is the transition, not the travel.
I have to answer messages in the evening.
Then set one time for it. Checking continuously is more draining than answering everything twice.
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