sleep · 3 min
Softening meditation for insomnia (3 min), when you are overwhelmed
Slow, spoken guidance for insomnia. A softening session you can do when you are overwhelmed.
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About this practice
Slow, spoken guidance for insomnia. A softening session you can do when you are overwhelmed. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: insomnia
Insomnia is often maintained by the fear of not sleeping. Anticipating a bad night raises arousal at bedtime, which produces the bad night.
It tends to show up as:
- Dreading bedtime
- Hours awake with a busy mind
- Sleeping worse as the week goes on
Removing the pressure to sleep is the active ingredient. This gives you something to do that is not trying.
Doing this when you are overwhelmed
- Do not decide priorities during it
- Pick the shortest session available here
- When you finish, write down the first physical action on paper
The pile looks less like a pile once the alarm stops ringing. Sort it after, not during.
How softening works
Softening is the practice of releasing held tension degree by degree rather than all at once. It targets the physical grip — shoulders, jaw, gut — that persists long after the stressor has passed.
- Soften one place per exhale rather than everything at once
- Let warmth and gravity do the work instead of muscular effort
- If a place will not soften, leave it and go somewhere that will
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00Let your eyes soften. Not closed, just less busy.
- 0:11Unclenching is not the same as relaxing. Just stop adding the tension back.
- 0:24We'll be quiet for a bit longer than usual. Stay with whatever shows up.
- 0:38Feel the air move past your upper lip. It's the coolest spot on the way in.
- 0:53Let your belly rise first, then your chest, then the tops of your lungs.
- 1:07Notice the space between your shoulder blades.
- 1:17Notice the space around the counting of hours until morning. It is there, even if it is small. Put your attention in that space.
- 1:36You do not have to like the frustration of not sleeping to breathe through it. Liking was never the requirement.
- 1:53Let your breathing be boring. Boring is good here.
- 2:04Picture the wide-awake mind at 2am as a weather front passing over. You are not the weather. You are the sky it moves through.
- 2:23If you feel restless, that's a feeling, not a failure.
- 2:35Find the tightest place and simply breathe near it. Warmth does the softening, not effort.
- 2:49Notice whether you feel any different. If not, that's also normal.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
Insomnia is often maintained by the fear of not sleeping. Anticipating a bad night raises arousal at bedtime, which produces the bad night. Removing the pressure to sleep is the active ingredient. This gives you something to do that is not trying.
Where and when should I do this one?
Do not decide priorities during it. The pile looks less like a pile once the alarm stops ringing. Sort it after, not during.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Softening is the practice of releasing held tension degree by degree rather than all at once. It targets the physical grip — shoulders, jaw, gut — that persists long after the stressor has passed.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try 12-minute noting meditation for worry, on a day off, Work stress: 3-minute letting go meditation, before sleep or Letting go meditation for social anxiety (12 min), on a break.