gratitude · 3 min
Letting go meditation for contentment (3 min), after an argument
For the times after an argument when contentment takes up more room than you would like — 3 minutes, letting go.
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About this practice
For the times after an argument when contentment takes up more room than you would like — 3 minutes, letting go. A guided session of about 3 minutes, suited to all levels. Nothing is recorded and no account is needed.
What this works on: contentment
Contentment is the absence of the next want, not the presence of everything. It lasts only as long as the wanting pauses.
It tends to show up as:
- Arriving without enjoying the arrival
- Immediately wanting the next thing
- Rest feeling unearned
Not wanting more for a few minutes is a trainable state, and it is available without acquiring anything.
Doing this after an argument
- Do it before you re-engage or send anything
- Let the physical arousal drop first — it takes minutes, not hours
- Write down nothing you intend to send during it
Whatever you would write in the first ten minutes is rarely what you would say after thirty.
How letting go works
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
- Pick one thing you are gripping and loosen a single finger
- Release the effort with the exhale, not the issue
- Set down temporarily; you can pick it up again after
What happens, minute by minute
- 0:00Notice whether you're leaning forward. Most people are, slightly, all day.
- 0:12We are not solving anything in the next few minutes. We are setting it down, temporarily.
- 0:27Let your attention drop to the level of your shoulders and stay there a moment.
- 0:41Follow the breath down into your belly and feel it come back up.
- 0:54Feel the air move past your upper lip. It's the coolest spot on the way in.
- 1:09Feel your palms. Warm or cool, either is fine.
- 1:20You are allowed to be unimpressed by the settled feeling after striving. Indifference is a legitimate response.
- 1:35Give the enough-ness of right now a shape, a colour, a temperature. Turning it into something specific makes it easier to hold.
- 1:53Follow one full breath from the moment it starts to the moment it ends.
- 2:07If you catch yourself fighting the calm of not wanting more this minute, that is worth noticing. The fight usually costs more than the feeling.
- 2:26If you're sleepy, sit up a little. Or let the sleepiness be there.
- 2:39With each exhale, let a little of the effort go. Not the problem — just the effort.
- 2:54Let the next breath be the start of the rest of the day.
Questions people ask
What does this session help with?
Contentment is the absence of the next want, not the presence of everything. It lasts only as long as the wanting pauses. Not wanting more for a few minutes is a trainable state, and it is available without acquiring anything.
Where and when should I do this one?
Do it before you re-engage or send anything. Whatever you would write in the first ten minutes is rarely what you would say after thirty.
What actually happens during the 3 minutes?
Letting go is about loosening grip rather than dropping things. It works on the effort attached to a problem — the holding, rehearsing and bracing — which is separable from the problem itself.
Meditation is a practice, not a treatment. If you are dealing with ongoing distress, please also reach out to a professional.
If this one is not quite right, try Letting go meditation for brain fog (15 min), before work, A racing mind: 12-minute gratitude meditation, after a shock or 7-minute grounding meditation for fatigue, at bedtime.