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What to do when you wake at 3am — a realistic guide, when you are not sure this will work
Waking in the middle of the night is normal. What turns it into an hour of lying awake is the reaction to it.
Start here
The order matters less than doing the first one tonight. Start there and come back to the rest.
Not being sure it will work is a perfectly good reason to try it once.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Do not check the time. Knowing it is 3:12 does not help, and it starts the arithmetic of how many hours are left.
If twenty minutes pass and you are still wide awake, get up. Sit somewhere dim with a book. Lying awake and trying is what teaches your brain that bed is a place for thinking.
Keep the lights off and stay in bed for the first twenty minutes. Most wakings settle on their own if you do not get involved.
What to do when it does not work
Do not turn on overhead lights or look at a screen. A small lamp and paper is the whole setup.
When you go back to bed, do not check whether you feel sleepy. The checking is the problem. Go back because it is boring, not because you have passed a test.
Write the thing you are thinking about on paper. Half of 3am thinking is just the brain refusing to let go of something it is afraid of forgetting.
Questions people ask
Is waking at 3am a medical problem?
Waking briefly is normal at every age. If it happens most nights for more than a month, or comes with loud snoring or gasping, mention it to a doctor.
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