Guide · morning · 3 min read
A morning routine that survives a bad night — the essentials, after a difficult conversation
Most morning routines are designed for people who slept well. Here is a version that works on four hours.
Start here
The order matters less than doing the first one tonight. Start there and come back to the rest.
Difficult conversations leave a residue. This is for the residue.
If you only do one thing from this page, do the first point below. It is first because it removes the most friction for the least effort.
What helps
Get light on your face within half an hour of waking. Daylight, or the brightest room you have. It does more for alertness than coffee does.
Have the same breakfast most days. Deciding what to eat uses the same attention you need later.
Do not decide anything important in the first twenty minutes. Your judgement is genuinely worse then, and everyone pretends otherwise.
What to do when it does not work
Drink water before coffee. Not for a detox reason — you have not had anything to drink for eight hours.
If you cannot face the whole routine, keep one item. One is enough to keep the habit alive.
Do not measure the morning by how you feel. Measure it by whether you did the thing.
Questions people ask
Is cold water really necessary?
It wakes you up, which is the point. A cold shower and a cold face splash do about the same job for this purpose.
Written for people who want the practical version. No accounts, no tracking, no newsletter wall.
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