Breathing exercise · 4 · 4 · 4 · 4

Box breathing — 4 · 4 · 4 · 4 — for a stolen moment of caregiving, when you feel fine and want to stay that way

A 4 · 4 · 4 · 4 rhythm — four equal sides, like tracing a square.

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Follow the circle. It counts for you.

How it works

In for 4, hold 4, out for 4, hold 4. The shape stays the same every round. Feeling fine is a good reason to do this, not a reason to skip it. Nothing abstract for the next few minutes.

Why it can help

The pattern occupies the part of your mind that would otherwise be rehearsing the worst case.

The pattern, in seconds

PhaseLengthStarts at
Inhale4s0s
Hold4s4s
Exhale4s8s
Hold again4s12s

One round is 16 seconds. At the default 5 rounds this practice runs 80 seconds — about 1 minute — plus a breath or two of ordinary breathing between rounds.

Good for

  • on a train or a bus, with your bag on your lap
  • when the afternoon has gone flat
  • just before you have to say something difficult

Tips

  • Count in your head, or let the circle on this page count for you.
  • Do the last round slightly smaller than the others. It makes stopping easier.
  • A hold should feel like a pause, not like running out of air.

Please note

If holding your breath makes you dizzy or uncomfortable, skip the holds entirely and breathe slowly and evenly instead. Never push through lightheadedness. If you are pregnant, or manage a heart, blood pressure or lung condition, check with a doctor before doing breath holds.